Being single and happy

Life is tough. No one ever said it was easy. Being single often doesn't make it easier. However, there are many ways to take advantage of your singledom and make the most of it! If you are unhappy, it's because YOU are making yourself that way. It's not better to be in a relationship just to be in a relationship. It's often worse than being single anyway, so why not enjoy it? Besides, what's so bad about being single? These are the things,that I, someone who was single for most of their life, enjoy about being single more than being in a relationship. Not to say that finding the right person isn't a blessing, because it is, but being single has its advantages. Here are some things I did while I was single.

1. Get to know yourself. This may sound dumb, but often people that are always in relationships forget who they are in the process. Spend some time alone, reading, watching movies, shopping, hanging with your girlfriends. You don't need a guy to define you. Remember who you are what your passion is.

2. Enjoy your freedom. Being able to go where you want, when you want is a privilege. Face it, once your in a stable relationship, you always have to consider that other person. Right now, you only have to consider yourself, so enjoy being a little self indulgent and do what you want to do. You'll miss the freedom once it's gone!

3. Spend time with your family. Yes, everyone's family is a pain, but yours is special because they love you no matter what. These are the people who you will know forever, and who love you for who you are. Until you find another person who does that, your family has your heart in their best interest. Have a game night with them, or have a movie night and order pizza! They may bug you, but they deserve it!

4. Take up a hobby. I'm not talking about shopping, or seeing movies or whatever you do all the time. I'm asking you what your passion is. Do you like to write? Take some free time and write short stories or poems for submission. Do you like to dance? Get a friend and take jazz. Do you like to cook? Go to your local community center or college and take a class. Not only would this be fun and insightful, you may meet some new people there!

5. Go out and have fun! This may have seemed obvious, but you get to do that a lot less when you're part of a couple. Go out to bars and have a few drinks with the girls! Go to Vegas for a weekend! Live it up while you still can! This won't be the case forever, so do something crazy that you'll never forget! (And, it will give you stuff to talk about on dates!)

6. Further your career. It's almost impossible to get ahead when you're so worried about your personal life. If your single, then do some extra work to look good to your boss. All you have to do is focus, and the rest should come to you.

7. Indulge. Go buy yourself a new outfit, cool piece of furniture, expensive perfume that you love, or even go on a trip! While you only have to buy for you, enjoy it and give yourself something you want to make you feel great!

8. My last piece of advice is to stop trying! When you're exhausted from going to the bars, on the Internet, etc., it will tire you! If you believe in fate, then the right guy will come to you when you least expect it! And the truth is, when you look confident and independent, that's very attractive to a guy!

Remember, life is short, so try not to spend all of it miserable. Being single does not have to be a bad thing, and if you realize that you are fantastic, someone else will too! Good luck and have fun!

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