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I have spent a good portion of my life single and dating. I used to enjoy dating. I have had several long term relationships and finally I got married at thirty seven years of age. But during my youth I had fun. I'm not ashamed to say it. I was one of those girls who dated, dated, dated. I would often have two dates in a day. Yep, thats right. I'd meet someone for a lunch date and move on to a dinner date with someone else. Or I would just meet someone for coffee. I know a lot of people might think that sounds horrible but I had fun. No one got hurt. If I liked the person and we went on to more dates then I would date exclusively until I decided if it would turn into a relationship.

Despite my vast dating experience I had never asked out a man on date. I had never needed to make that first move because the men had always seemed to jump at it. But all of that changed one day in my mid thirties. I never needed to approach a man and ask him to go out with me until that moment. Finally I found myself faced with actually making the first move. I was dumbfounded I had NO idea how to go about asking some man out on a date. It was an odd and unusual experience for me.

I was with a friend of mine in a rock hound/craft store. The friend that I was with was a male. He was just a friend from work. Nothing more. Anyway, thats when I saw HIM. He was absolutely breathtaking and I felt instant attraction. I could see him looking at me from across the store and I knew he felt the same way about me but I also knew that he was uncertain if I was with my friend in a romantic way or not. So he didn't make a move to approach. We did a lot of direct eye flirting and I hoped he would get the idea that I was single and that my friend was just that, a friend. But he seemed shy and he made no move. So what was I going to do? I knew that if I walked out of the store or let this handsome stranger walk out then I would kick myself for it. But I had NEVER asked a man out on a date. It was just something that I didn't do. Finally, I decided to give him my business card. On the back I wrote, 'call me'. I was shocked that I would do such a thing. But I couldn't let the opportunity slip by me and I felt there was more then a physical attraction pulling me towards him. So I handed him my card with my small note on the back and I walked out of that store. Within two hours my phone rang. And it was him.

Well, I had made the big scary leap by making the first move and I had been forward and direct about it all. It ended up turning into a real relationship and not just a 'date' that went no where. So in the end I was grateful that I had overcame my fear and made that first move to ask a complete stranger out. The rewards far outweighed the fear that I had felt.

So I feel that if anyone is faced with taking such a leap just do it. You might never get another chance and perhaps that person will ultimately turn out to be the 'one'. I learned to not be so old fashioned when it came to making the first move. I think in todays day and age it's alright for a woman to make a move. Females have proven themselves equal to me in every other way, why not in the dating arena?

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