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Forgiving and ex spouse and being able to move can be difficult if you do not receive the proper closure. For whatever reason the two of you decided to call it quits it is important to be able to resolve conflicts to move on with your life, mainly if children are involved. The main thing to always remember is that there is no reason to hold grudges over your ex, you are separated and you do not have to fight with them anymore.

It may be easier said then done, but it is essential that you forgive them even if they hurt you deeply. If you do not forgive them then you are going to end up spending much of your time resenting them and taking out your frustrations with them onto others. Each new potential partner that you meet is going to suffer from your exes mistakes, and that is not fair to them or you.

The best way to resolve conflicts with your ex are as follows....

* Always stay on the topic of discussion. *

It is easy to have a lot of mixed emotions between you and your ex and they can get in the way when talking to them. When you are talking about one thing you may be thinking of something else and you become irate with them over something else rather then what you are discussing. Try not to allow other problems get in the way of talking about the topic that you are actually talking about. So many times we say one thing and mean another, allow your mind to focus on one thing at a time. Don't bring up other things when you are talking about one thing. It gets in the way of you two trying to be civil with each other. Your relationship is over and bringing up your twos bad history will not do any good for either of you.

* Keep the past in the past *

Staying mad at your ex spouse for things that have happened in the past is no way to move on with your life. Bringing up old problems the two of you had in your marriage is not going to get you any where, especially if it is bad memories. Realize that you both have new lives now that do not include each other. You both started over and you should focus on your life and living it to the fullest rather then harping on past issues.

* Try handling conflicts over the phone *

When you talk over the phone it is easier to deal with your emotions. If you start getting mad about something you can simply think up an excuse to get off the phone. Rather in person you are stuck looking at each other and it is cause for more conflict. Avoiding seeing your ex spouse eye to eye can also help you not have thoughts about the past and see them

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