by Colette Duval

Created on: January 11, 2008

Its a sign of our times, isn't it, that we should even consider this.
I know that statistically half of all marriages end in divorce and many more are teetering at the edge.
But imagine - no matter how many millions you stand to lose in case of divorce- standing at the altar with the person you commit yourself to spending the rest of your life with, thinking that ' just in case it goes wrong'...

Its all too easy, isn't it?
We live in a society where a lot of things are made far too easy. I know people who basically live off government benefits because its easy. I know people who have had more than one unwanted pregnancy terminated because its possible.
And here we debate the suggestion to ' downgrade' marriage! Why get married? Why have pre-nups. To make it easier to bail out?
Despite the statistics many people appear in a terrible rush to get married, just look at some celebrities who have known each other for a year, or a few months, or even weeks...
Proclaiming there want to spend the rest of their lives with one another while signing pre- nups.
Does it make sense?
Say you are deeply in love with a man whose fortune amounts to millions. Say he asks you to sign a prenuptial agreement. Now maybe its just me, but wouldn't you- as soon as you put pen to paper-
get an uneasy feeling that something wasn't quite right?
Of course marriages fail, but we are talking about the point in time when you are at your most ' in live' , at your most romantic , at your most committed point. At that very point there should be no room for doubts. At that point you would not be able to contemplate that your special relationship could fail. Or why get married?
At that point you should not be able to conceive of not loving your partner enough to not want to share your riches even if the relationship should fail.
It should be absolutely inconceivable or you should not get married!

Of course there are cases where some men or woman have worked hard for their money and a divorce payout amounting to thousands or millions does appear in many cases unfair.
But that is not the point.
It happens.
I am saying that don't get married if at the time of marriage your money or potential loss of it is even up for discussion.

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