After the divorce: A list of ways to move on and find a new life

1. Forgive

Before you can move on, you must do some forgiving. It's not as easy as it seems, but with forgiveness, you will finally be free. This means that you not only need to forgive your ex, but you must forgive yourself.

2. Soul Searching:

Take some time to do some soul searching too, and reflect on those things you need to change about you. If you want to move on to the new, you'll need to let go of the old. It's like Tarzan, who would swing from a vine to get to the other side. If he never let go of his vine-rope, he'd have hung around in limbo.

3. Re-inventing:

By the time you've forgiven and searched through your soul, reflecting on the things about you that you need to change, it'll be time to re-invent your life. It will be an exciting time, and the possibilities will be endless. You'll find that you can do and be anything. It all depends on your frame of mind and what you allow it to believe. Make a list, like an inventory of the things you desire. Be specific, because being vague will only confuse the dreams from becoming a reality.

4. Believe:

Once you've made your list of things you'll need to begin the new life of your dreams, you'll need to visualize your dreams as being your reality, even before they arrive. Some call this step in moving on, a kind of, "blind faith." You have to see the dream in reality before it can take place. Visualize that list in your mind, every single day! Go ahead and be happy about it, ahead of time. Gratitude will draw to you more to be grateful for. It's that law of attraction thing.

5. Recognize your new life:

Don't deny what you see with your own eyes! Never say, "It's too late," or, "How could it be that something so great would happen to me?" If you say those things, you'll rearrange your new and improved destiny. Learn to recognize the endless opportunities that will arrive in time.

6. Act upon the dream you see:

A dream can't come if you don't do anything, no matter how hard you dream. When you see an opportunity, DO SOMETHING. Don't hesitate and wait for fate to hit you between the eyes. Without delay, get up and take charge of your life.

7. Don't accept any less than the best:

It's tempting sometimes to find a bit of the dream and convince yourself that this is, "the real thing." When this happens to you, go back to your inventory list. Does it match up, or is it less than the best? Too many times, when we find ourselves, "out there," on our own, we settle for less than the best, believing it's all we can get. For lack of a better way to express it, I'll say, "Settling for less is nothing but , "B.S."

Do you want to move on to a new life, or not? If you do, then you need to follow the rules.

8. Have an Attitude of Gratitude:

Sheryl Crow sang, "It's not what you want, it's wanting what you've got." Although we need to dream of better things to move on and find a new life, in the mean time, it's a great idea to be grateful for the life you have right now. As I've mentioned, when you are grateful , you'll find more to be grateful for. Isn't that the point?

I could go on and on, but I think I'll keep this list short and sweet. This brings me to one more thing. Keep it simple, please. Remember where complicated issues led you to. You don't want to go back there, do you? Life is meant to be a reality of your dreams, and with endless possibilities, you can have anything.

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