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Conflicts can take place anywhere and anytime. This is especially true in a marriage if the couple true self started to come to light after some time. Conflict management is very important in a marriage and it has to be resolved when there is still hope or else it will turned into tragedy in extreme cases.

When a couple had divorced, more often than not, more conflicts occurred. Two of the most common causes of conflict are:

1. Custody issues - When a divorced couple were effected by the court, usually family court, the custody of the child will be granted to one party but at the same time, there will be 'access' period granted by court for the losing party to see their child or children for the stipulated period. This is the most common cause of conflict as one party will not be happy to follow that order passed down by the court or purposely trying to find a loophole in that order just to get back at the other party.

2. Assets - Be it current or fixed assets, either one of the couple would want to claim ownership. Because there is an underlying conflict between the two, either ones would want to win in the hope to gain some ego.

So is there any way to resolved or refrain from getting into a situation of conflict with your ex-spouse? Yes, there are, but it is very difficult to avoid and it depends a great deal on your personality.

1. Live and let live - Well, this is the hardest approach to adopt because man are literally made to 'win'. Motivated by the feeling of euphoria by making the ex-spouse upset. This is really a very helpful approach to take because when you toned down your attitude and be a little more flexible, this will reduced the tension between the two parties.

2. Try reasoning - If you are a person that will lose your temper easily, then this is definitely not your cup of tea. Reason it out, talk sense and be very reasonable. Chances are, the other party may accept your deliberation and there might be a agreement for a more fruitful cause.

3. Do not resort to violence - According to most laws in the world, voluntarily causing hurt is not a seizable-offense which you will not be arrested even if there are prima-facie evidences against you. However, you will still be charged if legal actions like complain were lodged against you and you will be summon to court to face the charge. Beside the legal implications, this will cause greater tension between both parties. Calm yourself down a little more and adopt a more courteous attitude in your engagement with the ex-spouse.

There is no full proof step by step guide to resolve conflicts with your ex-spouse and it is very much dependable on your attitude and personality. If conflict can be resolved so easily, the poor couple would not had divorced anyway. Just avoid getting into trouble and adopt the "live and let live" attitude and you should not be too far off from resolving conflicts with your ex-spouse.

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