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Your heart rate is elevated, your hands are hot as blood has raced to them, and you are pacing. Anger is the most primitive emotion having been developed as a part of the flight/fight response. Even though you might have kept yourself in check avoiding a physical confrontation, the adrenalin is still flowing making you will off. How do you calm down when emotionally, you are revved up for the Indy 500? Here are some ideas for bringing you down from the adrenaline high of an argument.

Get Active
Take a walk or do some aerobics. The important thing is to release the anger in an appropriate manner. A walk around the block will relieve the tension and also leave you with an opportunity to clear your mind. If you choose to workout or do aerobics, really focus on your movements to help clear your thoughts and release any tension.

Write
Write a letter to the person you had an argument with. Say all the things you didn't get to or couldn't say. You will feel better after letting it out even if only on paper. Remember to destroy the letter or another argument could ensue if the other person finds it. Journaling is another effective method for acknowledging your feelings and evaluating what you can do in a future situation.

Yell
Find a quiet and securely private area and let it go. Release your inner Viking and let out a battle cry. Get in your car and let it out. A folded towel covering your mouth mellows the sound. If you have children, play monsters and work through the anger with play. After a while the laughter will probably take over anyway.

Clean
This is beneficial because it focuses on other areas of your life and allows fluff time, time to think about nothing. If you are focused on filing papers or vacuuming, you don't have to think about the argument. However, don't pay bills and file bank statements if you just had an argument about spending money. That can be counterproductive.

Meditate or Pray
This one is very helpful because it allows you to clear you mind and focus your energy on achieving and maintaining a calm state. The Buddhist have the prayer beads, as do Catholics with their Rosary. Most religious groups have some method of prayer that helps bring clarity and peace when you are angry.

Sometimes an argument can leave you shaking, tense, and emotionally exhausted. By trying some of these ideas, you can bring tranquility after an argument and your world back to calm and peaceful.

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