by Kathy D

Created on: January 08, 2008

Some people "feel" rejected regularly in the course of daily life. Does this mean they are actually being rejected or do they simply feel a "sense" of rejection?

It depends on the individual and the circumstances. Some people misinterpret something that has been said or done and take it as a personal rejection. Others may have an ingrained sense of rejection, stemming from childhood issues, which causes them to be overly sensitive. They may even feel rejected if the cashier at a store doesn't say hello.

There are those who may have had a very painful experience, such as being abandoned from a long-term relationship and they've never dealt with those feelings. Some who are adopted feel a great deal of rejection. They may carry this feeling into adulthood, not fully understanding why their biological parents, gave them up.

The smallest issue that comes up in daily life may cause feelings of rejection to resurface. The feelings are real, but the current circumstance may be highly misinterpreted. In other words, there may not be an issue of actual rejection at all.

In order to deal with the rejection in daily life, one needs to understand where the feelings come from. They need to understand, if they are indeed, being rejected or if they are highly sensitive to what feels like rejection because of past issues. A lot of hard feelings can arise from misinterpreting what is transpiring. Some relationships end because one person feels drained by the other person constantly feeling rejected and having to prove to them they are worthy.

How to deal with rejection:

* Don't assume! If you are rejected for a job, a relationship or whatever the case, don't assume you are the problem. Don't assume you are inadequate. You have to push past the event and never give up. We aren't for everyone and everyone isn't for us. We won't always land every job, but there is one out there for us. Being rejected does not mean we don't hold great value or great abilities.

* Don't blow rejection out of proportion. You may not have landed one job, but this does not mean your employment future is doomed. If someone has rejected you for a relationship, this does not mean you will never find the person of your dreams.

* Don't allow rejection to prevent you from living your dreams and passions. Don't put up a door between you and life when there doesn't have to be one. Persevere past that door and past any rejection that gets in your way.

* Learn from rejection. If someone abandoned you in a relationship,

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