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There isn't a single person I know that doesn't live with their own past. We all do. Its in letting go of the things that hold us back from our pasts that allows living with it to be possible. Yet, that is also where most people have trouble, in letting go. We cling to our pasts so easily in order to makes excuses for our daily lives that hinders us from living out our full potential. We have therapists, and psychologists, psychoanalysts and tests to figure out what our "problems" are and subsequently determine what to let go in order to overcome that which still grasps firmly in our present reality.

I don't remember the last time someone said that their relationship issues stem from what is presently occurring in their lives, go figure. It's always based on their failed relationships from their past, their expectations, fears and doubts; all based on what happened to them long ago. I know I still have that problem, and even though I open myself up enough to realize what my underlying issues are from my past drug addicted boyfriend, it still readily affects my relationship with my present practically perfect in every way man; or so how I should see him, until he proves himself otherwise. We find it hard to give people a chance, and trust again. It reminds me of a quote I read long ago that said, "Work like you don't need the money. Love like you've never been hurt, and dance like you do when nobody's watching!" How many people say that they truly live their lives that way? Do you?

What it really all comes down to, is living our lives fully. Being happy and content with the present, as we acknowledge and learn from our past. That's all the past becomes, a learning tool. We allow it to become a burden when we don't understand it, and even though all of life's mysteries will never be fully understood, we are all faced with our own challenges everyday that we are able to overcome and work through. It is priding ourselves in the fact that we overcame our pasts, and now live in the present. It's like the prayer, "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference."

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