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I've been a silent observer or life and its many fascinating facets since the moment I was given eyes to see. One of the most intriguing and I must admit confusing aspects of it all is friendship, at least for myself. I've come to the conclusion having a small, if not very small, close knit group of likeminded yet diverse group of friends is a much more satisfying and healthy alternative to the dramatic realm of all that comes with maintaining a rather large grouping of friends.

I'm not what you would call a social butterfly. I'm not even a social caterpillar. I'll stay right here in my cozy little cocoon thank you. It's not that I don't desire friendship or that I shun it when it is offered, I don't seem to fit into many of the molds people think friends should fit into. I don't like to talk on the phone, I don't like to go shopping and I don't care to go out with anyone but my husband or an occasional date with one of my boys.

Most of the women I meet have much younger children and then there is the fact that my children face challenges that a lot of people either cannot or do not want to understand. I don't have many friends. Just a select few including my mother, the best friend I could have ever hoped for, I have mostly memories and mementos that I treasure, remembrances of the friends I have been blessed with in this life. Truthfully . . . I kind of like it that way.

I do believe friendship is a wonderful thing, in moderation. I am not one of those women who have a phone directory filled with names and numbers of people I like, don't like, tolerate, get the good gossip from, always asking for favors or any of the other unknown reasons women flock together for. I'd blame it on my years of being a military wife, seeing people come and go in and out of our lives but I know it has nothing to do with that. I was like this even as a small child. I wasn't anti-social, I just preferred my books. I would rather sit down and write a story than go out and ride bikes on most days.

I wasn't unpopular, I knew just about everybody from grade school to graduation and wasn't considered a loner or anything like that, I was friendly with the cool kids and I befriended those the cool kids shunned, they were the ones I liked the best. Some people thought me to be stuck up because I was quiet. Funny thing is, the ones I always thought where stuck up where some of the loudest!

I held tight to my beliefs and stood strong on my convictions and that hasn't changed.

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