by Jennifer Presmyk

Created on: January 05, 2008   Last Updated: August 04, 2010

It is one of the most dreaded tasks we face as parents. Taking our kids to get their shots. The moment we lay eyes on the precious baby we have brought into this world instinct kicks in and you swear you will never let anything hurt them. Why then do we choose to let someone stick them, even seconds from birth with hoards of scary needles? Perhaps it is because we know that the temporary pain they (and us) will feel is worth the peace of mind that having given them will bring. Fortunately for us, as adults, we are able to rationalize and understand why shots must be given. For our kids, however it is not that easy. They lack the understanding and reasoning skills it takes to make the pain seem worth it. To them all they know is that their mommy is letting someone hurt them, and that, to me is the worst pain of all.

So how can we as their protectors and guardians help alleviate some of the anxiety and fear that our kids feel as they face this necessary evil? There are several theories out there, and here I offer up a few that have worked well for me.

First, be open and honest about it with them. Children need to feel secure and know that when their parents tell them something, it is true. For a child there is nothing worse than expecting a specific outcome, and getting something completely different, for example, telling her that this won't hurt a bit. Imagine the shock, disappointment and distrust she will feel towards you when she realizes that you have misled her? I would rather my child be completely aware of what is in store. Now, don't get me wrong, you should not say, "this is going to be so painful, the needle is huge, they will stick it in your arm, leg. etc., and you will probably bleed." No, simple and supportive. "Honey, I know you are a little scared to go to the doctor, and that is ok. You know that I am going to be right there with you the whole time, Right? Yes, it will hurt a little bit, but only for a second. I bet they have a really cool band aid to put on afterwards!" And also be honest in answering any questions they may have.

Second, be there for them. Kids need to know that their parents are supportive of them. Never tell them that there is nothing to be scared of, or that being afraid is silly. In their young lives, this is a big challenge for them to face, and as with anybody facing an obstacle, they need to feel supported. Let them know that it is ok for them to feel scared and nervous. Also, recount to them how you remember feeling

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