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to love, in order to further their progress in this world. The man who cheats on his wife. The woman who takes credit for another person's work in order to receive money or further themselves in the work environment. The criminal who frames another person for a crime they had nothing to do with. These people were obviously intending to cause harm to the person that they wronged. Situations like these are also hard to find apologies that are sincere. These are the people that never deserve forgiveness and should be removed from your life completely.

Now, in everyday life, the deceptions we see are somewhere in the middle of these two extremes. The questions we have to ask ourselves are the same though. If you can honestly tell yourself that the person did not mean to harm you and that they can continue to be a part of your life without hurting you again, then you can probably work towards a solution that will allow forgiveness to take place. If the answers to those questions are no then you need to find a way to separate yourselves from this person because they are not good for you. Forgiveness is nothing more than telling yourself that this person can be trusted not to repeat in the future. Forgiveness is not really about forgiving the person because of how they feel. It is about how you feel and what you believe they will do in the future.

There is no fine line between an unforgivable deception and a simple white lie that was never meant to cause harm. The gray area in between is what makes forgiveness a personal decision. If you been wronged, then you deserve the right to be selfish and think about what you want in this situation. If you truly want to continue your life with this person as a part of it then make that decision and allow yourself to accept it. If that situation seems unacceptable then don't accept it, move on with your life and find a way to get over this person, because you are better off without someone who is willing to hurt you.

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