The best lesson I think I could have ever learned was from my friend Heidi.

I had this friend growing up that I met in Jr. High. She was a little weird but then so was I. She was loud and obnoxious, just like me! It was great. We became close friends right off the bat. Well the years went by and I had made other friends as well but no one quiet like her. I had transferred out of the high school that we were in together and soon lost touch for a while.

In my new school I had made a new friend, Ka she was not like me at all, but hey opposites attract right? Well I finished out my high school years being friends with Ka and also got back in touch with Heidi, the girl I had left behind a couple years back. I thought I had the two best friends that anyone could ever have.

Well life went on, and I got married soon after high school. Unfortunately I got married for all the wrong reasons and life didn't get much better after that. Things with my husband got pretty bad, but I never shared these things with even my closest friends, I told them a little but not too much. That was the beginning to the great demise of my friends ship with Ka. I had decided to finally leave my husband, no I probably didn't go about it in the best way, but I still did it. I found out after that , that my friend Ka didn't like the way I went about it and stopped being my friend! After being my friend for almost 6 years, she suddenly didn't like this. When I divorced him, I lost allot of friends as many people do in those situations, but I still had my friend from Jr High.

Years later I asked her why she didn't split on me when everyone else had. She proceeded to explain to me because she was a true friend.

The lesson I learned from her is that sometimes you and your friends may not agree, and sometimes they may even do things that you think are despicable but in the end you still love them and they still love you. You aren't, or shouldn't, be friends with a person because you think they are perfect and don't do anything wrong. You are friends through he good times and the bad. Just because you are friends or "best" friends doesn't mean you always have to agree with each other or each others actions.

I am happy to report that Heidi and I are still best friends and are as close as ever even though we now live two thousand miles apart. She really is the lesson to be learned.

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