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I just saw one of my favorite commercials by an insurance company. The characters are all very different, yet they are connected as they randomly do something nice for each other. One sees another doing a good deed, and he or she is inspired to do another for someone else. It is the "pay it forward" theory, the idea that sometimes we are not able to thank those who may have helped us in some way, so instead we can help someone else out. I remember one time going back to see a teacher who had been influential in my life, and thanking her. She waved off my thanks and praise, and told me just one thing, "you go and do the same for another kid. That is the best thanks I could ever hope for."

During the season of Thanksgiving, this is a wonderful lesson we can begin or continue to teach our own kids, to not only be thankful for what we have and what others may have done for us, but to put our thanks into action. This can be done in a variety of ways, some small and some larger. It is important to instill in children that we all have something to give, and we should use our talents to help others as much as possible. Giving children a sense of social awareness should start very early, and can lead to a lifetime of community service and understanding. Remember to always explain the reasons why you are doing what you do, and the effect it has on helping other people. In due time, our children will be naturally helping others.

Here are some ideas, based on the development age of children that you and your family can do to pay it forward:

- Clean up a beach: this can be done as a family with children of all ages.
- Rake leaves or wash windows for an elderly neighbor or relative: once again, this can be done as a family
- Volunteer monthly at a local soup kitchen or food pantry: check with your local community to see if there are specific age guidelines for children
- Read to the elderly: many nursing homes are looking for volunteers
- Collect toys, books, puzzles, games and clothes that are in good working condition and bring to a local shelter
- Bring a dinner to a neighbor or friend who has had a life transition or event, or is new to the area
- Collect all your loose change for a period of time and as a family decide on a cause, agency or program to donate it to
- Invite someone you know to a holiday meal or gathering who may not have anyone to share it with this season
- Talk to your child's teacher for ideas and suggestions that a whole classroom can do together

There are so many ways to give thanks for what we have in our own lives by helping others. For more information and ideas, please visit www.actsofkindness.org or www.payitforwardfoundation.org .

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