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o Can I balance the check book? Learn the rudiments of bookkeeping or download Quicken which will help you organize your finances.

There are rudimentary lessons to be learned in order to function in the 21st century. The Internet is one of them, as it can make life easier to manage because of the great resources there are to be found. The first of these lessons is navigating the world wide web, and the second is e-mail. A Baby Boomer will have grown up with a fast changing pace in technology, and is more adept at embracing new ideas than the parents before them. They will more probably have a working understanding of navigating these two aspects of the web.

Another aspect of concern - and a very real one - is "who will I go to Annie's wedding with?" There is nothing scarier than going to a dinner dance wedding .... Alone! So, I am not advocating an escort service (!), but a meeting of people in like circumstances. Without relying on one's family to "find them a date", it is important to join clubs that cater to single people for the purpose of exchanging ideas and making friends. If you play tennis, search out singles and go to the movies with them, have a luncheon, start a book club. Make it known that you are looking for company, and not another spouse. If love follows... Hooray!

Take cooking lessons if you've never been in the kitchen besides looking in the fridge for a beer or a late night snack. Give cooking lessons if you are a good cook, and teach elementary cooking skills.

What about laundry, oh bane of everyone's life! Outsource it if you really don't want to do it. There are laundry services that will pick up and deliver and it should cost you less in the long run than having to buy new clothes because you a) shrank it b) ran the colors c) burned it with the iron !

Depression is an obstacle that needs to be addressed. The most upbeat person will have days of gloom and "why did this happen to me?"

We need to face the fact that one of these couples is going to die before the other. The question is - are you prepared? It is one thing when a long illness prepares you for the advent of a death, and there is time to put one's affairs in order. It is a totally different thing when one passes away suddenly with no warning. You have to be prepared!

Life is a plan. You plan for your old age, for death insurance, for funeral arrangements in the future. What about planning survival when your plan goes bad? Do you have an alternative? Are you prepared?

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