2 of 15

Write now Article Tools

Page 2 of 2

behaviors that express these values at all times.

These are your responsibilities as a coach. But coaching becomes even more complicated when your child is a player on the team you coach. If this is the case, you'll have to take into account your roles as both a coach and a parent, and think about how those roles relate to each other.

COACHING YOUR OWN CHILD

Many coaches are parents, but the two roles should not be confused. Unlike your role as a parent, as a coach you are responsible not only to yourself and your child, but also to the organization, all the players on the team (including your child), and their parents. Because of this additional responsibility, your behavior on the basketball court will be different from your behavior at home, and your son or daughter may not understand why.

For example, imagine the confusion of a young boy who is the center of his parents' attention at home but is barely noticed by his father/ coach in the sport setting. Or consider the mixed signals received by a young girl whose basketball skill is constantly evaluated by a mother/ coach who otherwise rarely comments on her daughter's activities. You need to explain to your son or daughter your new responsibilities and how they will affect your relationship when coaching.

Take the following steps to avoid problems in coaching your child:

Ask your child if he or she wants you to coach the team.
Explain why you wish to be involved with the team.
Discuss with your child how your interactions will change when you take on the role of coach at practices or games.
Limit your coaching behavior to when you are in the coaching role.
Avoid parenting during practice or game situations, to keep your role clear in your child's mind.
Reaffirm your love for your child, irrespective of his or her performance on the basketball court.

Learn more about this author, Glen Collins.
Click here to send this author comments or questions.

• << previous page
• 1
• 2

Add your voice

Know something about Tips for teaching kids to play basketball?
We want to hear your view. Write now!