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Been there, done that.

The first rule of bartending, most do not recognize. Some are "happy drunks" some are "angry drunks". DO NOT tell any person who is drinking that they are drunk. In fact, it is not a good idea to tell them that they have had too much.

Instead, DO tell a drunken person that you, yourself, are too drunk. A person inebriated will somehow understand your being drunk, even though you are perfectly sober. They will even have compassion and empathy for you. The intoxicated will recognize that it is you, who is confused.

Experienced at bartending and waiting tables in a restaurant for the "after hours bar crowd" taught me the above. When someone in the restaurant had a problem drinker, that person always came to me to take care of it. Because I had good experience with intoxication, I had been a town drunk myself.

If you feel you can't handle it, DO NOT do anything more than appease the customer or guest with a drink and DO get the host or manager to take care of it for you. The drink, if confiscated (or not) by the host or manager is their decision, not yours. In most cases, if you handle it yourself without the correct tolerance, you are the one the manager or host will blame for an incident. If the host or manager approves the drink, you are off the hook. Better to make a screwdriver than to drive a screw into your reputation.

"I think that person has had enough", is all you need and is better for you than, "That person has had too much." Remember, a manager is so because of a thing called "responsibility", the manager receiving pay to be responsible in such a manner. A host is the same position except, at a private party; you are in a more precarious situation.

DO NOT take the added responsibility. DO allow the responsible party to make the decisions. If the manager or host denies or approves, the lawsuit is theirs not yours.

The above goes for pregnancy as well. DO NOT be the pregnancy police, if you are, find another vocation (unless you are hosting the party, it is your party, make them cry if you want too). DO learn what you may not know. A glass of red wine will not harm an unborn child. In fact, it can be good for both the mother and the child. Sometimes even a small shot of liquor can be healthy (alcohol can kill unwanted infection of cold and flu, too much alcohol is toxic to you).

Anyone serving a cocktail; DO always make sure your glassware is shiny clean and lipstick smudge free. DO NOT ever serve a cocktail in a blemished glass.

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