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I know a lot of people who start dating and are satisfied with it. The only thing is they may be with somebody for all the wrong reasons and maybe they dont realize that at the moment. Many girls or guys that usually get their heart broken and have been hurt very badly start to feel they are ready to date again but some times, its just them searching for somebody to substitute for their exes which im not saying is a good or bad idea because sometimes it realy helps you get over that one person.

I was in a relationship with somebody for a little over a year. When I had my heart broken, I felt as if there was no happiness coming back at all. I thought I loved him, I thought I was in love with him and my self esteem was so low i felt the only way I had high self esteem was because of the way he used to make me feel. So to try and change that I would go out and just search for somebody to try and get interest in me in some kind a way just to make me feel better. It became very hectic when I realized everything I was doing. I am twenty one years old. For the last three years, I began searching and searching to take over my ex boyfriends place and I ended up in some real bad situations and all that stuff. I ended up in guys houses and stuff, even if it was just sex, or friendship and sex, it felt some kind of effection is what I needed to make myself feel better and for that I lost so much respect to myself. I realized I dated guys for wrong reasons in the past and at the end, it didn't help me through my relationship much but only made it worse of how i felt, because not only was I heart broken of losing my ex, I felt useless after I realized how I was seeing so many guys and stuff. It was awful.

So forming relationships for the right reasons, you want to make sure that you are ready and i mean READY for a real relationship. If your not over somebody and you try to make yourself jump into relationships, it's like all hell is going to break loose. You will lose your pride, dignity and your self respect that you should be building up instead of letting it fall back down.

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