Words and phrases that put you in a slump

CANT
I can't do this anymore.
No, you choose not to do it, based on your thoughts and feelings about the "task"

Shouldn't
who says you shouldn't
Is it not up to you?

It is his fault I am late.
He was late when he picked you up, but you chose to wait, instead of taking a cab, a bus, or calling him, and saying you are leaving, because you do not want to be late.

You make me so angry

No one makes you anything.You choose your own emotion/s based on thoughts and feelings.
You choose anger instead of a more appropriate response, such as "it really hurts me when you yell at me or call me down".

I will never succeed.

Ever heard of the power of positive thinking?
If you are already believing you cannot succeed at something, then there is a good chance, that you won't.If you go for it and do the best you can, chances are, you will be satisfied with the outcome.Success is based on your thoughts only.Not someone elses'.
If you studied and practiced and took the time out to understand the information you would be tested on, then you will suceed. If you don't.Change what you think success means to you.

I just can't stop

No, you choose to not stop.You are already aware of the fact that you have a problem with stopping.That is the first step to learning to stop.

You need to go to the store and get yourself some couch drops

When you tell someone they need to do something, it may make it sound like you know what is best.People do not like being told what to do.We like to make our own choices, based on the information given and how it is given.It would be more effective to say,

"Listen I had a similiar cough the other day, and I went o the suprmarket and got some cough drops, and the coughing stopped.You may want to try that, but it is up to you ofcourse."

It is my fault he lost his job

It probably is not.So you were on the phone with him so late, he slept in and then got fired for it.Yes you were on the phone, but he had the choice to leave the conversation, by telling you he needed to sleep, so he would get to work.He decided to stay on the phone with you. He is responcible for his own actions.

Why do you keep using me

Someone may be using, you but if they did it more then once, and you did not say anything, you made it easy for them to do it again.
If someone hurts you in some way, tell them.They may not be aware of it, or no one was healthy enough, to say anything.You have the right to tell others how you feel without causing harm. You are not responcible for their reaction.You did what you could.The rest is up to them. Think through things and decide if you did everything you could.And accept that.We need to acept our choices and on them no matter what the out come.

STAY positive.Think psotive.Even if things "seem" bad.Learn to laugh at yourself and the world around you.Take responcibility for youself.Happiness spreads like the rays of the sun and always keeps everyone warm.

ALL HARMFUL TO YOUR PERSON:
can't
won't
should have
could have
I have no choice
it is all your fault
he made me do it
I will never succeed
I am not smart enough, tall enough, big enough, pretty enough, rich enough, athletic enough, etc.

never
always
uncontrollable
inattainable
impossible

Negativity attracts negativity
Positivity attracts positivity

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