I know that a lot of you believe that step-mothers are 'EVIL'. For some of you, it might be true. It is a very difficult process when your parents divorce and a new person is brought into your life. It was the same for me in the beginning but I am very pleased to say that is not the case now. My step-mother is a very caring person. She and my father have been married for 13 years. At first we did not see eye to eye, but that is normal. I did not like the fact that she was in his life. My father is the world to me. He is not my biological father, but he did raise me and he is my dad. Over the years both of us have come to realize that the most important man in our lives is my father.

My other siblings do not feel as I do, mainly because they are not as close to our father as I am. I can see the love that Barbara, my step-mother, has for him and I think that it is wonderful. He deserves to have the love of a good woman and I believe that he found that in her. He has someone in his life that is there for him, through the good and the bad. Of course, all relationships have troubles and theirs is no different.

She puts up with a lot from him, I know. He is not always the easiest man to love and he does tend to get on your nerves with his constant picking. She has come through it like a trooper and for that I am grateful. He is the type of man that expects you to know what he wants before he says it. I must admit that this has not been an easy road for her, but I will do my best to help her through.

I am proud to say that she is my step-mother. She hugs me and shows me more love and compassion than my biological mother. We have a lot in common, such as writing poetry, family time and knowing each others boundaries. I can sense when she needs her space or when she just needs someone to listen to.

Today, she is not feeling well, so I have made homemade soup for her. I know that she will not feel up to cooking, so I will do it for her. I do love my step-mother. For those of you out there with the 'Wicked' step-mother, just stand back and take a good look and ask yourself these questions.

Can you see the love in her eyes for him?

Does she do little extra things for him that make him happy?

How often does she tell him that she loves him?

Does she go that extra mile to be nice to his children and family, even though it is apparent that they can't stand her?

My answer to all of these is a definite 'YES' and then some. Give yourself and your step-mother time to get to know each other. Make an attempt to spend time with them, you might just find that it is worth it in the end.

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