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Marriage should be only if the people getting married are in love. If you met your spouse two weeks or even the DAY before you were going to get married, would you fall in love with that person? Odds are no. Marriage only works if they people are in love and care about each other. How on earth are you supposed to love a person who you just met and don't know anything about? How on earth are you supposed to love a person who you are pretty much forced to marry? How on earth are you supposed to be with a spouse who you don't love? These are pretty much all the follies of arranged marriages. You don't know the person.

It doesn't seem fair to the persons involved. It seems like a bad move on the parent's part. Choosing their child's partner, I suppose that's to choose a suitable person for them. But, I know, as a single woman, I want to choose my partner myself. I'm not in a culture that does arranged marriages, but I think that they are very outdated. It just doesn't seem fair.

I remember an episode of The Golden Girls back in the 1980s or so where it was revealed that Sophia had been in an arranged marriage that she had later annulled because it basically wasn't fair to her. I believe that people should choose their own partners. They need to date, spend time together, get to know each other, etcetera, and then if they decide that they love each other enough that they should get married, then they should dive right in.

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