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Giving Your All

Have you ever wanted to do something for someone, but you fail. I just got off the phone with the girl I love most in my life. She is depressed about her mom and just...well this is the part where I say she is probably PMS'ing but I have to tell the truth, she most likely isn't. Well I am here talking to her on the phone and trying to help her but she refuses everything that I throw at her, to make her better. Almost like she is ignoring everything that I am saying, which in turn causes her to think that I am not trying to help her.

There is a line that every person goes to. I am the person who will turn that line into a circle to keep going. I will try over and over until I master it. That is why people quit you known, they don't try. If any person tries hard enough anything can become easy. And quitting is not in my business, so this conversation almost seems like a debate or argument. And that is the farthest from my goal completely.

But, there is a point to how much you can affect a person. I believe that if they are having a hard time letting help come in or feeling this or that to the extreme then it is time for you to go to the extreme. I think that is what Jesus was talking about when he said to cry with those who are crying.

Considering how my lovely was feeling now, and will be better later. I should make the effort to consider what she was feeling but also drive up there and see her even if 600 miles seems extreme. Or go through what it takes to do something amazing to match the situation. Not by spoiling her (though that is what I really want to do) but by showing her the value that she is to me. Even if that means going to the internet emailing her right then telling her how special she is or busting out in a random song over the phone. Things that infringe on your comforts always seem like extremes. Like when a person announces in front of everyone how they love someone else. For some people that would be easy, but for others it takes courage and uneasiness.

So knowing what I know now I am going to call her back and give her a song of value. Be back in a second.

Well she must have fallen asleep because I got her answer machine. But I left her a big fat singing message, using the randomness that seems to be expressed when I put myself in awkward situations. It is weird how when placed in a weird environment I am compelled to naturally act weird. Anyways, I thought to write about that later.

So she will eventually listen to this and feel even better. So in my action to give my all I do much more that that. My leadership teacher once told us that one of the best leadership qualities are to go to the extremes, or more than an extra mile for others, this is what we should think about. And I thought about it and realized I would love it if someone did that for me, and in fact I would feel humbled, because they are doing it for no reason.

My final attempt to cheer up a good girl is the one that takes me out of my comfort zone. I mean people heard me singing like a weirdo in the hallways. But the reward may be greater than my effort because I not only tried again, but I went to an extreme. The funny part is that my roommate just had to be sleeping which forced me to go out into the hallway. And at 11:40pm everyone is up having fun. So some embarrassing thing I did, hopefully equaling extra measures to her.

I believe Edison said, "I haven't failed I've only found ten thousand ways that don't work." This quote is how I hope to live, and by trying not to quit trying so much I might end up not trying to try so hard. Like I said before when you try hard enough anything can become easy.

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