by Mary Tyrer

Created on: December 05, 2007   Last Updated: February 18, 2009

"Can you trust the honesty of on line dating site participants?" My answer is no! Absolutely not! You have no idea who you are talking to on the other end of your monitor, just stay away from putting yourself in a situation you may regret.

If I were to offer advice to anyone about dating services you find on line, I would say stop the practice now. You can never be sure whom you are talking to, even a picture that you receive may, or may not be of the person you are chatting. It is killing marriages, and it is a magnet for predators. Relationships are hard enough, on line relationships are fantasies, and when the fantasy ends, so does the relationship. So many have left husbands and wives, for on line loves, it is time to stop this practice. Although, I know this is impossible this would be my advice.

I have been on line since the early 90's. Before I knew about the World Wide Web, I learned about a chat board called Vegas Playground. It was local, and once a month everyone from Vegas Playground would meet for pizza, a Bar-B-Q in the park or some other activity that we would bring our families to and meet the new members face-to-face. It was really a lot of fun and being local, made it was easy to meet the people you shared time with playing Dungeons and Dragons, chatting with or whatever we did while we spent our time on line. This was much healthier than what happens on line these days.

Now anyone can sign up for an on line dating service, mail in any picture he or she wants to pass of as him or herself and talk to one another from all over the world. There is no way to know what is on the other side of that monitor, and so many times it ruins relationships that were fine, with the exception of the normal ho hum day-to-day rut so many fall into. The truth of the matter is on line relationships are fantasies, and if you are involved with someone, or married, there is no way your partner can ever live up to the fantasy of the person who seems to be perfect until...

Once a marriage or relationship is destroyed by the on line affair, the once solid relationship is over. When the two who are carrying on the fantasy internet affair meet, they believe they have fallen in love. The fantasy of the Internet begins a new life with the other person. Once together, the same daily hum drum mundane day-to-day life sets in and both of the on line lovers in the same situation they were trying to escape. People should stop and think the grass is not always greener on the other side.

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