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be when it counts!

Don't be afraid to say, "Hello."

You're only saying, "Hello."

You're not inviting someone to marriage or anything, so why anticipate anything at all? That's what stops us from flirting, anyway, right? Fear of what may happen? Well, what about fear of what could have happened 'if only I had?'

Is your next flirt going to lead to wedding bells? Probably not, and you never know.

Anyway, saying hello doesn't necessarily have to be saying, "Hello!" verbatim. It can be saying something like, "Look how strong you are," or whatever.

Even if there is no spark, what's the worst that happened? You connected in some way with a nother human being...No harm at all in that, right?

After you've made initital contact or been inititiated by another to engage in the flirting game, try not to think about yourself at all. Do you know that the less focused you are on yourself, the more the real you shines? It's true. Focus completely on the person you're talking to. Notice what he's noticing, what she's wearing, what he looks like. Maybe her eyes are very interesting, or the style of his hair is especially intriguing.

Offer compliments to the person with whom you are flirting. People like to have their efforts appreciated. It has to be something you mean, though, because faked or forced kudos are not appealing. Be careful not to appear psycho or cause discomfort by giving too many compliments. Pay attention to his body language here...You will know right away if she is comfortable receiving compliments, for she will simply say, "Thank you."

If you freeze and can't think of anything, just ask him how he's doing. His response will guide you to your next step. From there, a conversation could travel millions of different directions. During your conversation, remember, don't be afraid to be provocative, just don't be trashy. You don't wanna give too much away too quickly.

And if you have a negative flirting experience, let it go, and don't carry it over into the next. So maybe you said something that brushed somebody the wrong way. If it was wrong of you, don't do it again; and if you have no idea what was wrong with them, I guarantee you it was their issue. Problem solved!

If you just say what's on your mind, stay honest and BE YOURSELF!, people REALLY go for it. People like real people, not fakes. Flirting is about getting to know a person while showing them the fun side of you . Let go, be yourself, and let time tell you what's happening instead of worrying about what will or won't come next.

Stay in the moment, and enjoy yourself!

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