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Victims of abuse: When enough is enough

This December 6th will mark the 18th anniversary of an event known as the Montreal Massacre. For those of you who aren't familiar, a man named Marc Lepine walked onto the campus of cole Polytechnique in Montreal. He wasn't a student there, though not for a lack of trying. In fact, he was on a special mission that day. He was going to exact revenge on those who he felt were responsible for his rejection. So he walked into a classroom. He pulled out his loaded rifle. His formula was simple. Men were told to leave. Women were told to stay. Then he fired. This began his rampage on campus. At the end of the day he had murdered 15 "feminists", including one he stabbed to death in a classroom while other students watched in shock and horror.

When violent events spill out before our eyes the natural reaction is one of shock. When the shock wears off, we begin to ask questions. How could this happen? There's always this sense that our 'community' should be safe from this. So many assumptions come with our sense of community. The first assumption being that our community couldn't be producing these individuals. The distancing we all generally do towards those who kill and rape.

The disservice we do to our community is in the search for who is to blame. In every tragedy the sequence of events plays out and in the end someone is fired or ruled negligent or incompetent. This process is highly political and inherently flawed because searching for individual blame is by nature deflective of the greater responsibility. Once the public is satisfied that something was done we move on and begin the process of putting the past behind us without ever rooting our the source of the problem.

So let's begin the discussion at the point where the media and most of society are entirely too content to end. The beginning of the responsibility, and blame, that includes us.

In my research of Lepine it was no surprise to learn that he had been subject to brutal physical and emotional abuse at the hands of a parent, his father. Nor was it shocking that his view of women as servile and second-class citizens had all been assimilated as normal. Lepine's mother had her own job and pursued higher education, but the influence of his father was so pervasive that not even her positive model could derail his contempt.

Lepine, the adult, railed about the accumulated missed opportunities in his life, denied him by women he labeled the "feminists". He felt these people didn't know their rightful place in


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