by Barbara A. Pitter

Created on: November 24, 2007

If you're at a restaurant sitting alone and you happen to see a nice gentleman looking your way and smiling, smile sheepishly and look away. Straighten up and act sultry while at the same time, you're being coy.

Look at him again to see if he's still looking and whisper "how are you?" That should bring him your way to respond like a gentleman should.

When he says "Do you mind if I join you?" You say "Of course I don't mind, please have a seat." Now you let him do most of the talking. He'll ask you what he wants to know and you respond to his questions without giving him an autobiography of your life. If you ramble on and give him a tirade of information, he'll think he just met the loneliest person in the world and might get up and leave to save himself.

The point is to "give a little" and make him "ask a lot", and in that way, he'll feel like he's in charge of the conversation. And you'll be flirting just as you were born to do. No matter how old we are, we never let it show. Just the right response will make him think he's talking to a "pretty young thing." You will have him enthralled, for sure.

A worldly and well informed woman knows how to "be a woman" at all times. Also, an informed woman knows how to "listen" because that is what will win a man every time, no matter how old or young he is. Show your interest in each and every word, interjecting a question here or there just to keep him speaking and making it seem as if you are truly interested in what he is saying. You just might be, you know. Some men are interesting!

If he ask you if you would like something to drink, just be coy and say "What do you suggest for a lady?" And if he says, "Oh, is there a lady here?" Then you smack him and leave. JUST KIDDING!

On the honest side now, you can say something like "I would love one of those drinks with an umbrella on top if you don't mind." And he will take care of it, I'm sure. He'll order you a "girlie" drink and something for himself and keep on talking.

When he realize that the evening is over, he might offer to take you home. If you feel comfortable with him doing so, then it would be your choice. But until you know someone a little better, I wouldn't personally take a ride home from a stranger unless I had an AK47 in my pocketbook for security, know what I mean:)?

Let's be serious here, a woman always knows how to attract a man. It's in her blood, in her psyche, in her body, and in her brain. No matter how old you are, that's something you will never forget. And keeping yourself in shape, mind and body, will keep you looking good to any man, young or old. So telling a woman how to attract a man is history. She knows!

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