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Now I'm just a teenager but I'm going to go ahead and give you people the inside scoop from my perspective so you see this thing called relationships through my eyes.

There are plenty of reasons why a relationship can fail. Whether one person just doesn't feel up to it anymore, you don't talk the way you used to, you are sick and tired of jumping through hoops, or you make a catastrophic mistake. I think communication is key. You HAVE TO talk to each other. A relationship is built on two things: communication and trust, and if you don't have those two things then you shouldn't be together. It is really that simple. For example, a husband and wife argue every night because the husband will not stop lying. And the lies aren't even about big things a majority of the time, little stupid thing that if you actually are honest about, there wouldn't even be a problem, but no. Pride is too hard to swallow for this guy and he can't seem to come to grips with his insecurities about his significant other and can't ask her anything, not like when they were back in college. When they were in college they could talk for hours about all kinds of things and now that the flame may be gone they pick more and more things to fight about. And the downward spiral to divorce begins. And all because of what...ah, that's right, lack of communication because he's not talking about his concerns in the relationship and distrust because he won't swallow his pride and admit when he's wrong. Now look, I don't want to seem one sided against my boys because there is some fault to be placed on the women as well, it seems to me that most think every guy should and will be their Superman and that just can't happen. As a guy I don't mind saying that there are times I can't live up to being a Superman but I don't lie and I try to tell my girlfriend my issues if something is bothering me. Look, I'm not perfect and I am working on being there for people but as far as I can tell, we all need work on the basics, it's never just one person's fault.

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