We are not born with Self-confidence. It is a skill everyone needs to learn to be able to communicate effectively, with his or her environment. On some level this is learnt in childhood. Too much and you can come over as a know all and overbearing, and other's will avoid you.
Lacking this skill you will can be viewed as a wall flower, blushing and stuttering your words, people will feel sorry for you and not engage you in any conversation for fear of embarrassing you.

So when developing your skill the balance will need to be honed very carefully. There are many ways to practice. At first it is possible with the use of a video camera to record your self, performing that important speech or presentation, By viewing your self as other see you. Be aware of your actions, facial expressions your body language as well as the words you are using.
Another tool is the mirror and observe different faces and which would you feel more confident in approaching, or even ask a good friend to help out.

Body language is another confidence builder. Standing there with your arms folded, people are less likely to not approach you. A smile and open gestures people will come forward, knowing there is less change of being brushed off and feeling bad about them.
One method my grand mother used when I was small, because of my height was I had to walk around the room with a book on my head. Now I stand tall and not all stooped over.

Become aware at your appearance. Be happy and comfortable in what you are wearing, does that hairstyle suit you. If you feel good you will feel more confident around other people.

Before going out to meet other people especially if there is going to be new people to meet. It may be helpful to catch up on the news, or read the lastest magazine, feel confident in some opening or ice breaking conversational topics.

I my self look in the mirror (I don't feel silly any more!) I have several Mantras' I repeat to myself. Mantras are a selection of words placed together in a sentence, when repeated on a regular basis your self-consciousness comes to believe it. Therefore, you believe it.

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