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Don't worry, you can fake it.

Most people lack confidence because they think they're too something. Too old, too unattractive, too dumb, too unfunny, too nerdy or too boring. There are a number of things that can help with confidence. The most common is a drink. Alcoholic. And I don't mean get rotten drunk then blurt out an insane pick up line. A glass of wine, beer or champagne, sipped slowly will usually help dissolve inhibitions enough to proceed in a forwardly direction.

Whomever you decide to flirt with will almost certainly have something that stands out. Something that attracted you in the first place. An item of clothing perhaps. A killer smile. An amazing resemblance to Barry Gibb, or Linda Rhonstadt. Gorgeous hair, or full, luscious lips. Something about their conversation that's mesmerized you into getting to know them better. Maybe they smell nice. Compliment them. Once the compliment is out, the flirting has begun.

Bad body language sends powerful signals. Examples of bad body language:

Standing with your arms crossed (makes you look defensive and ready to kick butt).

Shrugging your shoulders ( you just don't care)

Flicking or playing with your hair (a dead giveaway for anxiety and lack of confidence).

Chewing your fingernails (nervousnessand very unhygenic).

Foot tapping (damn you're impatient!)

Good body language is like having two voices singing your praises instead of one. Lets face it, all good songs have a melody and a harmony.

Use your hands when you speak Like a good orchestra conductor, there's more chance that your prey will notice and remember you if you're animated. Just be careful not to knock a drink in someone's lap while you're making your point.

Make eye contact. But not for too longjust till you say what you have to say, then look away. E.g. "I'm really interested to hear your opinion on equine influenza"

Break through their invisible wall. People often stand inside a sphere of personal space. Don't be afraid to step into this space for a moment by touching a hand, shoulder or shaking hands with a firm grasp. Not to mention that you may get to feel a rock hard bicep while you're at it.

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If none of the above tips are doing it for you, then perhaps you could invest in pheromones. Now these you CAN buy on e-bay. Pheromones are chemicals that triggers a natural behavioral response in another member of the same species. Our body secretes these naturally, but hey, what self respecting baby boomer would knock back a little help. Do they work? You'll have to Google that for yourself. Even the most hard core flirts don't disclose all their secrets

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