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at both dwellings . . . his and hers. It takes time to get to know someone and time to evaluate honesty and compatibility. Meet their friends and family! And don't dissolve all your friendships to be with your new interest. As the old saying goes . . . don't burn your bridges. And don't reveal all your personal information, especially finances. If your new interest focuses on knowing about your assets and net worth, this should be a big red flag. Realize that some people have agendas beyond romance and if you are insecure emotionally, you can fall prey to vultures.

For the flirtatiously-challenged individuals there are many ways to trigger conversation in a social setting. Appear eager to engage in conversation by smiling and offering small talk. Comment on trivial things and this will open up communication lines. Place yourself near people that are of interest to you and look for an opportunity to introduce yourself. Realize other people are equally eager to meet new friends too and your focus shouldn't be on conquering a romantic interest. The social setting may provide something you weren't even considering such as an invitation to an upcoming event, cookout or celebration. The gathering could be a stepping stone to other opportunities where interesting unattached boomers exist.

Above all, mingling with other boomers should be an enjoyable experience. You don't have to go out often; just enough to cultivate the friendships and networks you need. Before long, you'll be surprised at the call list you've accumulated and there will be invites to events once you are known in the various social networking circles. If the phone isn't ringing as often as you'd like, consider making the calls yourself. You could even consider hosting a cookout at your home and inviting your new acquaintances. People similar in nature to you are waiting for new friendships too!

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