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Jealousy that is harbored against another individual can be advantageous or dangerous. Those that are susceptible to intense jealousy are individuals that may have no friends, limited resources, and a poor self-image. When a couple have unequal personal assets, this can be a trigger for one partner to become controlling and jealous.

Relationships are difficult to dissolve when one partner realizes a lifestyle will change dramatically for the worse in terms of loss of intimacy, available cash flow, loss of assets and the prospect of lost inheritances. Unfortunately, as humans, we are weighing up what we have and don't have and when confronted with the prospect of loss, some of us resort to irrational behavior to retain a bond with someone or a lifestyle we have become accustomed to living.

Some jealousy can be positive making us more productive and self-conscious about our appearance. Jealousy can create competition and it can create intense anger too. If someone is prone to temper tantrums, jealousy can create a dangerous situation for the targeted victim.

To overcome jealousy in a relationship, it is important that outside friendships are retained. Each of us needs our "personal space" and we don't need our partner hovering over us every minute of the day questioning all our actions. By having our own income sources and friendships, it creates a sense of security and pride in oneself. If one partner has to depend on the other partner for everything, this will create an unequal balance in the relationship and will trigger jealousy events.

In a balanced relationship, should there be a need for dissolution, breakups can be done in a civil manner because one partner isn't dependent on the other for cash flow, friendships and emotional support. Here are some suggestions for overcoming jealousy in a relationship:

. She has girlfriends and family to invite shopping, meet for lunch or go on local outings together.
. He has male friendships and family that share a hobby or an intellectual interest.
. Both work and contribute to household expenses but retain portions of their income for own savings or personal needs.
. Although both have friends and "personal space" time, much time is allotted for enjoyable activities together.

If there is a spouse that isn't working, but contributing to the creation of a lovely home life, it is important for the breadwinner to recognize the input of the stay-at-home partner. The unemployed partner should have a personal account and, according

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