Cyber cheating is new and exciting territory. Its the emotional tie to someone without the physical tie. And that is not to say that there is not a physical attraction and reaction, but not the actual skin to skin contact as in a traditional affair.

It is actually very easy to determine if you are involved in an on line affair. Do you have feelings for someone you have never actually met? Do you think about him or her even when you are not in front of your keyboard. Have you imagined meeting them? Have you made hypothetical plans for the future with them? And here are more tell-tale signs. How many pictures do you have of them, or do they have of you? Are you a different person when you are engaged with them?

I have actually quite often dabbled in cyber relationships. To be honest, I just ended one. Why? Because I actually considered leaving my very dependable, handsome husband just for the opportunity to be with a man that lives in another state. Go ahead, call my crazy! Let me tell you about this very addictive behavior. It only takes a moment of unhappiness and a search engine to find someone to fill a void. Two needy people finding each other in order to find comfort or solace or maybe just a cure for boredom. A casual introduction, possibly the use of an alias. You are whoever you choose to be. Am I the desperate wife in a terrible relationship? Or am I the frisky sex kitten looking for some attention? Or maybe today I am the divorced woman that is too shy to hit the bar scene in search of mister right. Actually, no one really knows. Neither party has a need to be 100% honest. You don't share your faults with the other person. You only share how fabulous you are and what you have to offer that no other person could. So, everyone is perfect. Everyone has a great job and a beautiful house and only has eyes for you. Wow! What else could you ask for?

Are you me right now? At times my mood is dictated by my cyber lovers' disposition. That's not healthy. I find excuses to be on the computer to catch him even for a moment. He has been late to work and appointments just to spend a few more minutes with me. I long for the morning to see if he thought about me last night and sent me a beautiful e-mail to tell me that the night is far too long and the distance too great between us. Romantic, huh? Its easy to be romantic and perfect when you don't know if he snores or leaves the cap off the toothpaste. Does he leave his clothes on the floor and dirty dishes in the sink? And he doesn't know that you spend too much money and are prone to fits of vanity. You can play the part of any scenario you want when the person on the other end of miles of wire doesn't really exist.

It's all so intoxicating isn't it? Are you having an affair? Do you long for someone else? Then the answer is yes.

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