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Now this is the big question, Why do relationships fail? Although I am merely making an assumption here but if we knew the complete answer to this, would any of them actually fail. Would we need to spend tons of money in couples therapy trying to figure out who's wrong and who's right? I think what it boils down to is that we all have an image of what we expect in our relationships. We have a self-induced idea of what our mate is supposed to be like according to ... yes that's the operative phrase, according to "us". We put such high expectations on the other partner and such less of a requirement from ourselves. Relationships take work. They don't come easy as we've all been raised through fairy tales to believe. There are very few relationships wherein Prince Charming is going to come riding up on his white horse to save a damsel in distress and we will live happily ever after in a beautiful castle at the top of a hill. Life just isn't this way. Real life is hard. Everything takes work, and let's face it, most of us want everything to come easy. We work hard enough as it is, why should we work at our relationships. If he's not going to love me the way I want to be loved, then I will find someone who will. Trust me, I've said these very words myself over and over again. Guess what though, the grass isn't always greener on the other side. Ever wonder why this is. Well maybe it's because it's because we haven't been doing our own lawn maintenance and there is some internal grooming that needs to be done. We are always so quick to judge others, but how often do we look into that mirror to judge ourselves. So often we get into relationships and we think, "this one has potential" in time I can really make this one into something great. We can't make anyone anything. We have to learn that we cannot change others. We can only change ourselves. We are all human. Unfortunately, the person you met years ago may not be the same person now. This is one of the hard things to accept about life and the changes that it will produce in us. One should never hope to be the same person they were years ago. Years provide for change, circumstances in those years will cause changes. We have to learn to grow with those changes, accept those changes. Compromise is such a big source in whether or not relationships will work or not. I think compromise is the key to a successful relationship or any kind. Learning to see our partners with love and compassion, and less judgment and scrutiny.

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