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The feminine principle of life decides whether a relationship goes forward or not. If there is an obvious fear of commitment by one person then there is usually a lack of commitment with the other person as well. This is not always obvious though. The reason I say the feminine principle of life decides about relationship is because it is the feminine principle of life that makes the connection with the soul's blueprint and the human self. Wherever we have abandoned our self whether that is consciously or unconsciously we will have someone that will abandon us.

We may think that we are committed but if we look deeper we will discover that perhaps there has been an imbalance in our life and the reason that they are not committed to a relationship with us is because we lack focus for our life. If our focus comes through a potential partner then we end up creating an enmeshed relationship with them. Very often the fear of commitment comes from our disconnection with our own purpose in life.

In order to have commitment that lasts we need to have a context for having the relationship. This is more than just finding someone that fits an intellectual concept of what we think we should have. If we are only looking at the physical circumstances of a person we are missing so very much about them. Then all of a sudden they leave and we wonder why he or she wasn't committed to the relationship. This is because on a feeling level there was some memory that was triggered in the outer physical reality.

In order to have consistent commitment in every moment of our relationships we must have commitment to ourself first. If we are needy in relationship then we actually push it away. When both man and woman is aligned with the feminine principle of life, their own blueprint for being here then they are free to have committed relationship where fear is being transformed. When we are doing this for ourself this makes our partner keep coming back to us if our blueprints match.

All of the emotions are messages to us. Have you ever seen a cat when it's afraid. All it's senses are heightened. It is ready to pounce at the appropriate time or run if in danger. The key to dealing with fear of commitment in relationship is to recognize when the fear is out of balance. Sometimes the fear is a legitimate warning sign and if ignored can have detrimental impact in our lives and even cause our death.

Then there is the fear that comes from the programming we have had in our lives that has kept us

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