The characteristics of a good person are hard to define. There are many that think they are good, though if you delve below the surface, are they really ? The aspects that gather together to make a person a better person can be destroyed by negative aspects, and I have shown the positive against the negative in an attempt to explain what each of these characteristics does to balance the weight of goodness in the entire person, as each aspect is like pieces put onto a scale, and at times in our lives the bad outweighs the good. Really good people are those that have learned the balancing act and whose scales are always heavy on the positive side, which includes:

*Giving
*Caring
*Modesty
*Calm
*Generosity
*Warmth
*Loyalty

Looking at all these aspects on one side of the scale isn't enough to determine their goodness factor because we could be ignoring those negatives that hold them back and that throw the scales to an equal balance of good and bad instead of staying in the positive. For example, let's examine each of these values and see how the negatives act to make them less effective.

GIVING

Often giving people give without thinking of their own needs. While this is a positive, what happens in many cases is that these people have low self esteem. Their giving is a compensation for thinking that they themselves have no value, and the negative side of giving is when giving is more important than looking after self. It may sound selfish, though the common fact is that people that enjoy being martyrs, and that give beyond their means, are doing so to compensate for their lack of ability, and often drive themselves over the edge of sensibility and become doormats for people who profit from them. This isn't healthy and knowing where giving stops and where self esteem starts is the trick to making giving a great part of being good.

CARING

Caring for people around you means that you feel a part of their lives. Knowing when it is ok to care and when you begin to smother those people you love is important here, because unless you know where caring stops and smothering starts you lose yourself in a sacrificial role that others don't want to you to be in. Here, true caring is nurturing and never putting a price on that nurturing by reminding those you care for of the personal sacrifice you make. The moment you demand payback for your caring, the caring element disappears and counts for very little.

MODESTY

Modesty is an impressive element

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