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Being rude is a classic display of a lack of class. As such, being nice in return is basically a waste of time. Rude people do not respect nice people, but will respect the mirror image of what they project. They are being bullies, and bullies usually back off when they realize that they have met their match.
The last time that I was rudely cut in front of at a check-out counter at a convenience store, I remarked, "That was certainly rude of you to cut in on me, don't you think?" The lady responded that she was in a hurry, to which I replied, "so am I". She sheepishly went to the end of the line and awaited her turn.
Through the years I have timidly permitted bullies to have their way many times. Now, I simply call their lack of manners for what they are. Guess what? They usually behave themselves because I respond not in anger, but in appropriate disapproval for their lack of manners. You need not be timid about this, only firm in your resolve that you are right, and they are in the wrong.
I view rudeness as bad behavior that should not be rewarded. This character trait probably comes from ignorance, and lack of proper parental training. When it is pointed out in an objective manner, most rude people are seriously embarrassed by the negative attention drawn to them. Always remember to be objective, and state any comment as an observation. If remarks are taken as an insult, then an argument might be forthcoming.
When dealing with the behavior of people around you, always remember that almost everyone wants acceptance, even rude people. We never totally forget our mother's instructions to "be nice", even if we don't always follow her instructions. Even as adults, that early imprinting is there, upon our basic psyches. Each of us should have it called to our attention if our behavior is unacceptable.
Don't give rudeness a "free ride". Everyone has a voice with which they can call attention to the bullies, and remind them that others in the world have certain expectations of them. Probably the same expectations that their own mothers had!
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