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As a fairly experience mom and wife of 10 going on 11 years. I think I may have a few pearls of wisdom to pass along to the cyber world of writers. The first is: make a weekly "date" for just the two of you whether it is a movie, play, or dinner out with friends to socialize and agree not to speak about the children or domestic chores during this "couple time." Doing thoughtful things for your mate whenever you can and encourage them when their job is stressful, things like picking up their drycleaning, or taking care of a chore that you know they hate doing, sending flowers or leaving a love note in their car for them to find. Little things like these can go a long way towards strengthening a marriage whether it is honeymoon new or 25 years old. It makes no difference at all as long as the effort is made to keep it alive and not allowed to get stale. Taking turns with caring for the child and not keeping score with who does what. In the long scheme of things it matters not how many diaper changes one of you has done, as you will lose count after few hundred of them. Basically, surprising your mate with something they wanted or doing a chore that they hate to do builds up a marriage and above all, don't have a child in an attempt to shore up a crumbling marriage, as this builds resentment. Love, laugh often, and talk things out before resentment builds to a boiling point.

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