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The very fact that you have to convince your partner to not dump you says your relationship is hitting the critical stage. No fear...there are a couple of things you can do to try and reverse your partner's way of thinking.

First, shut up and listen. If you are on the receiving end up of the break-up this is key. This is a rule that applies to both men and women. Really listen to the concerns of your boyfriend/girlfriend without being combative; you will not understand his/her reasons for wanting to leave if you do not put your own feelings aside and listen.

Second, after he/she is done laying out their case as to why you two should go your separate ways address their concerns without prejudice. Again, being combative and/or shifting blame is not the way to go here. Although you may be hurt and upset at the moment let it go and get into damage control mode.

Third, see if there is anything you can do to try and convince him/her to stay and work things out. Often at times you can 'cut a deal' which usually entails changing something about yourself that is the focus point of your partner's decision to end the relationship. Upon saying that though, that if you do cut said deal, you try your best to live up to it or you will have a final break-up, which no amount of crying or concessions, will be able to change.

Next, be honest with yourself also. Ask yourself, if the relationship is really worth salvaging. Are you 35 and ready for marriage but your partner has made it clear they have no intention of walking down the isle? He/She wants kids but you do not? In cases of break-ups which have long term effects as the root of the break-up, it is not so simple and should be thought out carefully before making any type of concession involving those types of scenarios.

In ending, there maybe nothing you can do to convince him/her to stay with you; accept that
fact, learn from the mistakes, grow stronger and get ready to re-bound.

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