Turning a complete stranger into a date, then a lover, then a soul-mate, is one of the most incredible and satisfying things you can experience. It's that first step, however, that is usually the most difficult one, and one that sometimes you'll never even attempt, let alone succeed at.

That is the first thing to remember. That person you see who you find physically attractive, could be "the one", but in your shyness, your fear of rejection, they remain the stranger and yet another one slips through your fingertips, never to be seen again. To avoid this, there is only one solution. You must be take action. Here's something that may come as a shock to you.

They will not come to you.

Your life is not a movie. You can't "leave it to fate". This is your life and you're creating it one day at a time. Ok, things can happen by chance, occasionally, but having this attitude with finding the right lover could leave you a lonely old person. You must make the connection, nobody else is going to do it for you.

Here's another point I've learned from my own personal experience that I want to share with you. When you see someone you like, you must act on it in a heartbeat. We live in a fiercely competitive world. One millisecond of hesitation is all it takes for someone else to jump in there, or some outside event to make it impossible, or for them to simply disappear. Don't sit there and think about it get up and do it now. Please believe me in this, I know it all too well.

That said, you must bear in mind one important factor when approaching someone you find attractive. Their mind will be elsewhere. Firstly, they may be in the middle of something. Approaching them when it's inconvenient for them to speak will definitely be counter-productive to your efforts. Make sure you're able to get their full attention or you will find yourself in quite an awkward situation.

Even if they're not busy, their mind will definitely be elsewhere. The only exception to this is when you catch eye contact, and there is real chemistry there. This is rare, so bare in mind that the person you're approaching will find your advances break their current train of thought.

This is important, because many people give up too early. They take the first response as hostile or disinterested, and they apologize for disturbing while running away with their tail between their legs. When you first approach and talk to someone, you have to give them a moment to readjust themselves

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