Jealously

On meeting my partner ten years ago I found out that I had the green eyed monster' gene and it made my life absolutely hell.

My partner being in a touring rock band regularly was the center of attention to the flocks of low cut short skirted groupies thrusting there young taunt flesh in front of him, being young and of a curveaous size myself which constantly left me with a internal (and almost always an external) battle to find an outfit that would somehow transform me from the size 22 bulk that I am into a toned and slender size 10 groupie whilst making me a fashion icon!

Well needless to say the hunt is still on

So my life seemed to be a constant battle with the persistent little voice in my ear telling me if I turn my back one of those groupies will be flat on her back if you know what I mean?

So I realised I had two options one find some miracle pill which once taken would transform me into a sexy size 10 rock chick or get over my jealously!
So after thinking long and hard I came to the conclusion that I need to realise that I the one that my rock star comes home to every night the one who he spends hours on the phone to every day so gone were the constant arguments of where he was, who he was with and god help him if he didn't pick up his phone when I called him!

So I set about my reinvention..

Porn was once a taboo as far as I was concerned why if he could have it anytime with me did he want to oogle over siliconed bleached blonde bimbos? So I decided to take an avid interest in his chosen viewing material and ever going as far to purchase a few which we then sat down together and both enjoyed.

Radar Eyes again a common characteristic of men which is especially seen during the summer months when women have the tendencies to wander about in skimpy tops and barley legal skirts as I felt that my partner must have been getting a sore neck and constantly looked like he was viewing a tennis tournament I kindly helped him out by pointing out attractive scantily clad women as on many occasions it felt like a re enactment of the exorcist and I was fully convinced that anytime soon he would be vomiting green stuff.

Strippers I encourage him to go and see strippers and I have even offered to pay for him to have a private dance which he has turned down.
As these changes we made I started to feel better in myself and before long I found that I had lost nearly five stone in weight and my confidence started to improve and our relationship has become more stronger as I have tried to make everything that is a man's ruin a talked about subject we both know our boundaries and we both know we deeply love each other a lot of people think I'm foolish for allowing him a long rein and that im setting myself up for disappointment but in return for trusting him I have established a better bond with him which at the end of it all is what we all live for.

I know it's a age old saying of a leopard never changes his spots or her spots to be more precise but I can truthfully say that I'm now a changed character I fully trust my partner I support him in all that he does and in return he has given me a huge lump of ice to stick on my wedding finger and a confirmed wedding date, the groupies still come to the gigs gyrating in front of him but where there was pure jealously and visions of slamming there tango ed faces into the nearest concrete floor is now the smug and pleasurable thoughts of what I'm going to do to him when we get home

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