Sometimes I wonder how I manage to give topics such as this one even a single thought considering the busy schedule that students have nowadays. However, taking into consideration my innumerable failed relationships due to me walking away, I have been wondering about this subject for a few months now.

For years I thought that I had a list made up in my mind - mind you, there is so much that a teen expects in a boy. It always seemed pretty straight forward:

1) Funky yet down-to-earth personality
2) Tall, beautiful eyes and smile, nice posture
3) Ambition in his career and life in general, if not the next president
4) Nice car or at least making the effort to get to the destination - how he manages to, none of my business
5) Power

I want you to look at number five; I do not know about you, but it's the factor that has been really bothering me lately. Why? What makes power so much more important or significant than his personality, his physical characteristics and his career? Think again, because power encompasses all of these...

I could give an infinite number of examples that display a situation where a woman pursues a relationship with a man because of his power. I do not intend to offend anyone, but I am sure that you can think of plenty famous, yet not necessarily most attractive men that are dating or married to a model.

I did manage to figure out one aspect of the whole dilemma so far; men confuse power with money while women separate the two. For instance, my powerful man would ideally be contributing positively to the community, whether it be volunteering or donating and making a difference in the world. He would be someone who takes my hand and walks me with pride and someone who can spin heads wherever he walks in because of his charming gestures. Although these traits might be screaming out 'money', it is not necessarily the case. I believe that being raised in a household where a domination by the father is felt results in the son behaving in such a way. I assume that my perspective on this issue might come across as a bit traditional, but it is what we seek as we age!

When I indicate that men confuse power with money, I am trying to make you remember of a date you had, or your friend, where the man literally gave you his credit card statement. It was all about his car, his job, his flights, his experiences, his encounters, etc. If you were naive enough to see that man again, then you would realize that it will permanently remain

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