That feeling of forever is something that we all crave for isn't it? Young females fantasize and dream of that perfect wedding with that perfect person who they deem as their soul mate, saying those two words "I Do", which are just as powerful as saying I Love You.

Somewhere in life, we meet that perfect person and experience unbelievable moments and then poof! The next time we blink, we are waking up beside that person acknowledging the fact that THIS is your life. Then it really begins to sink in and you begin to ask yourself, did I make the right decision? Do I really love this person as much as I think I did? Those are the dreaded questions we would rather not ask ourselves and just be confident in the decision that we made.

So where do we go wrong? Is it the fact that we fully do not get to know the person we chose as our forever? Or maybe it is the reality of understanding that this is now it, and that you made a commitment that you are forced to stick with... whether you are happy or not. On one end, the movies we watched as kids had fairy tale endings and that Happily Ever After factor, and then we grow up and are exposed to soap operas, talk shows, and dramatic movies that overtly or inadvertently tell us that nothing lasts forever.

As time furthers itself in a relationship, so does the distance between the two individuals and/or the challenges that are presented to them. A healthy marriage should be a constant feeling of that First Date, a feeling of butterflies and an assurance that when you look into the face of your spouse, you can't help but bear an automatic smile. You smile because you know that you made the right choice, and that there is no place or nobody you would rather be with than that person that you have accepted and chosen to spend forever with. So when you finally make that decision to say I Do, just make sure you are not second guessing yourself and quietly asking what have I Done?

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