by Megan Jacobs

Created on: November 02, 2007

Awkward! There he is! Why did I get a job here? I swear if he's the one who has to train me I'll just die. I have to be ok with it though right? I'm over him, I'm completely over him, why is this so hard then? How do I break the ice?
Step one, be confident. Arch your back and put that head up high. He's your exe, that means he's your past, that means your past him. Let him know that but don't shove it in his face. Be tactful and approach him like you would a co worker. Talking to him is strictly business.

Step two, remember step one. Fight any urge to slouch or cower. It's tempting to crawl in a corner and hide but then you'll always be stuck in that corner. There is more to fear than an awkward few minutes of small talk with an exe.
Step three, when you are talking to him let your words be strong and leave feeling like you left an impression. Don't sound bitter, don't sound rushed, and don't attack him with verbal revenge unless your goal is to permanently deter him. If you know there are going to be future moments in which you'll have to see him strong words and a level head will put you both at ease. It will let him know your alright with the situation and if you're alright chances are he's feeling less anxious by the minute.
Last and final step don't dredge up the past. Analyzing what is already gone and done is a trap. Even if he was a great a kisser you don't have to let him know it until you have already broken the ice and feel comfortable around him. You'll both feel like running if your first conversation after the break is one about the relationship which no longer exists.
Be confident, remind yourself to stay confident, let your words sound easy and leave a strong impression. The ice will break and eventually you will be able to see him as an acquaintance not an exe.

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