The hardest part really, isn't going to be to find the perfect gift - it's the ability to think like the woman you're gifting.

Women tend to give gifts that show more of the emotions they feel for someone, whereas men give material items that represent the level of feelings they have. There are women who are strictly material in nature - meaning you won't succeed with them unless you've given them something that is either expensive, or known for its name. They need the status attached to the gift, not the gift itself, to have them appreciate it.

However, there are many women who crave the kind of gift they would give a man, especially knowing that most men are completely unaware of what they really want. Women want to be told they're loved, they're appreciated, they're the one, and they're special. They want a gift from the heart.

Many men cannot produce this, either because of masculinity issues, or just for the mere fact that buying an expensive item is easier, and think the money they spend is their explanation of feelings.

Women love to brag about what their mate has done for them. They also love to show off what they've received. The more personal the item, the more points for the man - the more envious the woman's friends are. All females want to show that their man has done more for them then the other guy's girl has. To achieve that - is really quite simple; but first, you must put that male ego aside. Your friends made tease you, but you'll get over it. The gift isn't for them, it's for your girlfriend.

If I were asked what the most romantic gift would be for me from a man, I would have to say a gift that involved a man's creativity and time; not something he bought with the help of a salesperson. Women want to know that thought was put into the equation of the gift giving itself.

Dinner is always an option, but how will you make it different then any other eating experience? Talk to the restaurant staff; they can accommodate requests far ahead of scheduled dinner reservations. A flower arrangement or centerpiece gift completely different from the rest of the tables, made especially for her, shows planning. She stands out from others.

Don't buy her a card - make her one. You don't have to be a poet - just say what you feel. Have a friend help you with a computer software program to design one - it's much more personal, and again - shows planning.

Create a DVD slide show of photos scanned of you and her - put to her favorite "our" song. Girls always have an "our" song. If you're at a restaurant that plays music, ask them if they will play the tune over their system, and have the hostess announce who it's too and from. Everyone will hear, and she again, will stand out. The other women around her will notice.

A frame with a picture of both of you is a given - she probably already has one by her bed, but not one you've chosen.

A hand-written letter telling her how much you appreciate who she is, and how she's changed your life by being part of it - is something she can share with all her friends. She needs the proof - and you've just given it to her.

Most women aren't out to take your money, if you're with one that is - you'll find there's nothing you can do to ever please her, except buy her.

When it comes to love or caring, most women want to hear it, see it or feel it. You can do all of those things for almost next to nothing, and the reward is knowing how special you've just made her feel.

Romance is about feeling. Give her something that shows you're capable of doing it.

Give her something from your heart; because that's all she really wants from you anyway.

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