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If you feel sure that your partner is right for you and that you should stay together then you will want to convince them not to break up with you. Sometimes this may be possible, and at other times you may find that fate has other plans for you.

If though, you intend to do your very best to keep your relationship going then there are positive ways to help you with your endeavours. If your partner is willing then you could make an appointment to see a relationship counsellor who can help you to work through your relationship problems and find solutions.

The counsellor can help both of you to see each others point of view and this can ultimately bring you closer as a couple as you gain new understanding of one another.

If you and your partner have been together for some time, and life has just interfered with your relationship by throwing extras stress and strain your way, you can rekindle the initial sparks of your relationship by repeating behaviours of the past which used to work for you.

If you used to date with your partner, but now live together and have children, find a baby sitter and go and date together again like you used to.

If you used to have romantic nights in with a bottle of wine and soft lighting and a shared bubble bath, then do this again to remind your partner that you can still have fun together.

At other times it sadly may be that your relationship is coming to a natural end.

You may have heard the saying that if you truly love someone then if they want to leave, you must let them go. This is because if they are really yours then they will come back. If they don't come back then they were never yours in the first place.

This may seem like a very difficult task. When you desperately want to be with someone then it is hard to see the situation as a whole. Instead you may focus on the one aspect of the situation which you want so badly. In this case it would be trying to stop your partner from leaving you.

When you are facing a probable break up and the decision to do so is not your own, then you need to remember to respect your partners decision.

If you behave in a desperate manner, attempting by any means possible to manipulate them into staying then you are attempting to be at the helm of your relationship firmly grasping the steering wheel instead of letting the relationship run its natural course.

It can be painful to accept a rejection, but the truth is that the decision is not under your control. You cannot 'make' someone stay with you any more than you can make them love you if they don't feel that way.

When you have stronger feelings for someone than they have for you then letting go can be heart-wrenching. But unless you have the grace to let them go then you will never find out if they are yours because they want to be or by default.

I have heard of insecure people trying to hold on to their partners who wanted to leave by doing everything from crying, threatening suicide to pretending to be pregnant.

All of these attempts to hold on to something which is already lost are manipulative and leave no room for growth of the individuals involved.

Instead of trying to convince your partner not to break up with you how about respecting yourself? You deserve to be with someone who loves and wants you as much as you love and want them.

By clinging onto a relationship that is really over all you will be doing is preventing both of you from moving on to happier times and from meeting the right people to be with.

If, however, you are meant to be together then some time apart may give your partner a chance to reflect upon the situation and to realize how much they still feel for you, resulting in you reuniting under happier terms.

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