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There are many different things that can kill a marriage. I probably don't have enough time or space to write of them ALL, but I will cover the things that have been MAJOR obstactles to my husband and I, and other couples that we know. Knowing what can kill a marriage, and having an idea of how to prevent it or fix it, can go a long way towards saving your marriage, and making your marriage worth saving.

The biggest marriage killer that I can think of is a lack of RESPECT, on either spouse's part, or on both sides. For a relationship to be happy and successful, you MUST respect each other! Showing respect for your partner, and vice versa, can go a long way towards getting you through the normal conflicts and challenges of marriage.

Name-calling, dishonesty, hurtful statements, rudeness and just a blatant disregard for the other person or their feelings, signals a HUGE lack of respect, and is the biggest sign that your marriage is heading towards severe conflict and possibly divorce. If two people don't have respect for one another, they can't find common ground or find ways to solve their conflicts without tearing one another down.

The next marriage killer is just as bad as a lack of respect, and that's a lack of TRUST. If you and your partner don't trust one another, in ALL aspects of your relationship, then your marriage is like a sinking ship with no lifeboats. No one can survive in a relationship without trust. Not having trust tears at your heart and your very soul, and stops communication before it ever starts.

Counseling is an absolute must if either you or your partner have trust issues... it's even more important if BOTH of you have trust issues. If you can't trust the person you have committed the rest of your life to, then how can you expect to make it through the rest of your lives together? Trust is the foundation of a happy and successful marriage.

Substance abuse and/or addiction is another marriage killer. Unfortunately, this is one thing that you can't fix unless the person with the addiction is willing to admit there's a problem and seek help for. Substance abuse and addiction are horrible on the person dealing with it, and the people around them who loves them.

People who are addicted often can't function in a healthy way or in a so-called "normal" way, and it makes it impossible to have a happy successful marriage when one person is stuck in the trap of addiction and the other person bears all of the burden of trying to "make it work."

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