by Trisha Roberts

Created on: October 28, 2007

The first thing to do if you can't get over your last relationship is NOT to jump yourself into another one for basically a substitute. If you love that person, it is very hard to get over the relationship, sometimes you may even think it will take forever but honestly, it really doesn't. It does take time though. You need to give yourself time and space for yourself to see where you want to go in life.. Keep yourself busy. It's hard, it may even take some years until your fully ready.

I was with somebody for a year and a half. When that relationship ended, i felt my whole world has ended. I felt so alone. Like there was nobody else out in this world for me. I used to cry every night, because he was all I could think about. I even waited for over a year to see if maybe he would come back into my life. It took me about 3 years to get over him and it was one of the hardest things to ever do in my life. One thing I learned is to cut off all my connections with him, even as friends, or any kind of memories. As time goes by I knew there was a day I just had to let him go out of my head and my heart. Every time I thought i was over him, I kept on falling and falling and it was like a roller coaster ride because I knew I wasn't fully over him but at least I was trying. I carried on with my own life, working and school and my friends. I grew a huge depression and had to visit doctors alot because I was just always so depressed and didn't want to deal with other people or myself any more.

As time grew, my heart started to change. After having no connections to my ex, it helped me greatfully alot because the more that happend in my life,the less i was thinking of him. until three years later, i finally got over him.

I still think about him every now and then, but it doesn't hurt me so bad. I don't cry over him any more, I don't do the stupid things I used to over him any more. I see more to my life now without him. I think about all the bad things we had, and all problems and, it makes me feel a bit better that he is gone.

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