You hear a little thump as a heavy envelope drops through the letterbox. Wondering if it's a large phone bill or a particularly early Christmas card, you walk to the vestibule. It is neither.

In your hands is an expensive-looking envelope, hand addressed in neat, italic writing. Curious and a little excited, you carefully open it. You have been invited to a wedding! Amidst happiness for the loving couple, you start to feel a little nervous - what on earth are you going to wear?

You cannot go wrong if you follow this simple rule - never wear black or white. Black symbolizes that you disapprove of the bride - unless you are a man, in which case a black suit is, in most cases, the best option for formal occasions. White, on the other hand, is traditionally the color of the bride's dress, and wearing a snow-colored gown will look like an attempt to upstage her.

The ideal outfit is appropriate to the time of day (cocktail dresses will look out of place at a morning start), location (heels at a beach wedding might not be the best option), and time of year (freezing in a layered skirt in February just isn't practical).

A pretty blouse and neat skirt, or a semi-formal dress, are great options. Team with a cool cardigan or blazer-style jacket for a more casual event, or pick out a co-ordinating jacket if it's a formal function.

Conservative clothing is a winner, as there will be guests of all ages who may not understand the hottest trends. Give low-cut tops or short skirts amiss - if you are unsure, try out different movements in the mirror to make sure you look dignified at all times. If you love a blouse or v-neck that is simply too low, add a spaghetti strap top underneath for a layered look that saves the day.

If you can, talk to the bride's family for specifics on the dress code, or chat to other guests in advance - shop together and share ideas, so at least your group of friends all have a similar plan. It's true that there is safety in numbers!

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