When communication is based on trying to win over another true communication is always lessened. This is because at the bottom of all outer communication is a wish to win out and have the way of themselves fulfilled. The inner communication must connect to the outer for the outer to be effective. Without an inner connection all outer communication is pointless and just goes around in circles.

All communication is a little known resulting phrase of contextual relating from one to another. Communication is really a means of sharing and this is why we have trouble with it as we never want to share but want to keep all to ourself. A relationship is also about sharing and sharing is about loving. It is hard to live on your own as a private person and to move forward on your path at the same time because all advancement on the journey of love means to give love to another and this is by sharing and communication with them.

Communication is mostly about balancing the sharing and easing and cooperation and love. To help your message get through try saying it like this: "Now Clyde this is important, I won't be home at 4.00 pm so please don't come between 4 and 5 pm. Always pretalk with such a statement of importance with things like that. But also don't make everything important.

Instead of fighting the false or correcting what's wrong, listen for what's true in every communication. This means then if I am criticised I don't try to fight or defend myself from the criticism, and I listen for any truth in it. What is the best approach to criticism that encompasses love and communicates truth in it?

Criticism is a form of worship, because a fault or a good point is worshipped by the criticiser. Worshipping means that they are drawing attention, paying attention to some aspect of you and in effect that's worshipping you for the fault instead of accepting you for who you are. The answer to a critic is just to continue being who you are. Sure you can allow the criticism to dislodge any pebbles of irritation that have lodged in you and draw criticism by their sharpness as when someone approaches you they see and feel the sharp pebbles sticking out first, and not the whole river of you carrying the pebbles to the ocean where the pebbles are released. So criticism is about trying to dislodge what they think shouldn't be there. But it is there and it's there for a reason. So listen to the critic, they might just give you the reason and explanation directly or indirectly

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