Many people ask if this is wise- to have an ex as a friend. Some wonder if it's at all possible and some just don't think there's anything wrong with it.
My advice- know yourself! Know what you can or cannot handle. Know what is the best decision to make and know what your intentions are.

If you want to have an ex as a friend for twisted reasons (eg. having a friend-with-benefits mentality) then ask yourself if you are really being the "friend" you think yourself to be.

If you have an ex as a friend because you are genuinely friends and not being friends is just unheard of or unimaginable to you both...by all means be friends.

If you want to be friends because you need him or her to make your life complete and you don't know who you are without the other person, by all means leave the past behind and get to know yourself and love yourself first.

Above all, state why you even want to be friends, make sure your intentions are clear on both sides, have the other's interest at heart (that means being happy for him or her if they do find someone else). In the end friendship is important but if it is better to go separate ways then do what's best even if it might be the hardest thing.

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